Change can be hard; it moves like water inside you. Water is an emotional element. It’s really important to release that emotional energy, so it’s okay to cry. It all depends on the nature of the change, which can sometimes bring up old hurts and challenges we’ve tried to ignore. Change is hard but good. A big life change can sometimes make you alter specific things about your life, especially the things that no longer serve you.
Personally I’m big on change, even though it can be very difficult and scary. It can trigger a lot of grief and feelings of stress or sadness. It can even bring up some trauma and may activate symptoms of PSTD, anxiety, fatigue, and physical pains. When you’re grieving, you should try to be as gentle and kind with yourself as possible. It really is okay to grieve, and to be honest, I recommend embracing change and allowing yourself to go through the process fully. As many people have written, there are seven different stages to grief: shock or disbelief, denial, guilt, anger, depression, bargaining, acceptance/hope. What I always say to my clients is that a new you is slowly emerging.
So what can you do to help yourself through this painful but potentially very rewarding phase? Taking care of your health is important; I like to visit my naturopath to make sure my adrenal levels are good. I’ll also get acupuncture or massage, or do physical activity like walking or hiking. Meditation is also important during this time. I definitely recommend eating a lot of live food like fruits and vegetables. Sleep to me is number 1. If you find that you’re stressed, going to bed early is a great thing to do. I also sleep with crystals and essential oils. A cup of lemon balm or rose tea before bed is a lovely way to help relax your body and calm your nerves.
So for final thoughts, we have to accept change, because even change doesn’t last forever. As human beings, it’s important to evolve–we’re constantly shedding our old skin. We tend to be impatient and rush the process because we don’t like to be in that state. Also, our physical body and spiritual being are interconnected, so it’s important to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to go through the emotions (especially so it doesn’t become physical). So let’s welcome change and its power to transform, and say thank you to it for all that it wants to accomplish in us.